26 Easy & Practical Ways to Improve Yourself

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Everyone gets stuck every once and a while, and that's okay! Ruts are a part of life, but they can help motivate us to do and be better. Self-improvement is all about making active decisions to feel more comfortable in your own skin and be a brighter version of you. Not only does it help you gain confidence, but it can improve your quality of life. So, if you're feeling frustrated, stuck, or a bit down, keep reading because we've got just the trick.

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The very first thing you should do is break out of your normal routine. Routines make us stagnant and keep up from changing as people. How you break out of your routine will depend on you, but even small changes can help you get used to doing new things so don't be afraid to start.^{[1]
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Practice positive thinking. Thinking negatively, about ourselves, our abilities, and the world around us, can cause us to shy away from experiences and opportunities. Stop harping on yourself and instead remind yourself of all the good things about you. Stop thinking the worst of others or only focusing on the bad things in your life and start focusing on the good things.^{[2]
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Go to source} Learn to be grateful for the little things in life that many people don't have, such as a bed to sleep on or being able to take a shower. A gratitude journal is extremely helpful in your journey, writing down 10 things you are grateful for that day will help change your perspective in your day to day life, relationships, and even work becomes more fun. As well, changing your attitude into a more positive and grateful one sets you up for success in life.
Don't let negative emotions like sadness, anger, fear, or envy ruin your life. Some experience of these emotions is natural, but letting them guide every action that you take is unhealthy and will reduce the quality of your experience of your life. Train yourself to calm down and find the good in things.^{[4]
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Sometimes we forget how good we have things. Look around you an identify people who are worse off than you. Now look at your own life and identify the good things about it. Did you find lots of examples? Look for more! Research about how other people live, either by reading or by watching tv programs or documentaries.^{[6]
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Bring creativity into your life. Being more creative and the act of creating things can be a profoundly positive experience in your life. This lets you contribute to the world while also changing how you look at things. Draw pictures, make sculptures, write, dance, sing, sew your own clothes or find other creative outlets.
- No matter what it is that spurs your creativity, you only get better with practice.
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Be a good people person.^{[7]
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Research source} Be nice. Don't lie. Consider the feelings of others. Be generous. Be forgiving. Basically, be a good human being. This one can be hard to do sometimes, but this is really one of the best things you can do it improve yourself and the world around you.
- Maya Angelou once said: "I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver."
Learn a new skill or pick up a new hobby. This will give you something to get out and do, making you and your life more interesting and well-rounded. Pursue something you've always wanted to do and you'll be happier and more satisfied than you thought you could be.^{[8]
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Start by getting up off the couch! Stop the sedentary lifestyle, even if you aren't going to the gym or anything. Go on walks with someone you love. Play with your kids or your younger siblings. Experience the life beyond your living room. If you feel up to the task, exercise! All of these things are good for you and will improve you as a person as well as your quality of life.^{[9]
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Volunteer when you can. Helping other people will give you perspective, make you more respectful, increase your enjoyment of life, give you a sense of fulfillment, and (obviously) provide some good to the lives of people who really need it. You can volunteer for whatever cause speaks to you, volunteering locally, or even abroad. There are lots of options.^{[10]
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- Volunteering at homeless shelters and youth centers can provide a lot of good with a huge impact on the future and society.
- Habitat for Humanity is another good way to volunteer.
- If you have special skills, find places or ways that you could volunteer and make use of your skills.
You will change profoundly as a person when you travel and experience the different ways in which people live. If you can only travel within your country, that's okay, just make sure you're experiencing a very different kind of life than the one you're used to. Travel abroad if you can, especially in a place where you don't speak the language.^{[11]
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Educate yourself. Another great way to better yourself is to get more education. Now, this doesn't mean going back to school. There has been a veritable revolution of free learning resources on the internet.^{[12]
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- With Coursera you can take entire college courses from top universities for free!^{[13]
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- You can get bite size lessons to open your mind by watching TEDTalks!^{[14]
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- WikiHow offers all sorts of learning resources. You can even spread the learning around by writing or improving an article on which you are an expert!

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Find qualities that you admire in others and that you want to learn. If you can't think of any right away, think of people that you wish you were like and think about what it is about them that you like. Are they kind? Ambitious? Hard working? These are qualities you should look for.
Think about the things that you don't like about yourself. Don't focus on things like your weight, because your body is really just the container you're in, it's not who you are. Things like weight should be tackled after changing stuff like your attitude towards others, your work ethic, and your skills.^{[15]
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Decide what you want to change. Think about what you want to change. These have to be things that you really do want to change. It's true what they say: the first part of solving a problem is admitting that you have one. Figure out what really means the most to you and what would be motivating enough to change your lifestyle.^{[16]
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Talk to others that you trust, like lovers, friends, and family members. Tell them what you want to change about your life and why. They might have some good insight that can help you in bettering yourself, as well as a clearer view of who you are as a person.
Start with small goals. Don't start with something like "stop smoking". Instead, try "smoke less". Breaking goals up into smaller goals will help keep you motivated and make your goals more realistic.
Think about where these goals sit in your life priorities. This can really change how much effort you put into bettering yourself. If you don't set a deadline for a change, the goal will feel unreal and intangible, and you'll be less likely to complete it.
Start! Don't just think about goals or what you want to do, go out and do them!

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Like we said, you have to really want these changes in your life, otherwise they'll never stick. You can pretend to be better in one way or another for a little while, but it will catch up to you if you don't mean it. Make changes that you want for yourself, rather than changes that someone else is forcing on you. This is the only way to really change.
Don't think that changing who you are will make your life instantly better and that everything will be perfect. That's not how life works. And changing won't be easier, either. If you go in with reasonable expectations, you'll have a much easier time sticking through the challenges.
Recognize the things that make you do things you don't like or that you want to change. Do you eat when you're stressed? Lash out at loved ones when you're angry? Find your triggers so that you can find better ways to deal with them.^{[17]
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Erect barriers to keep you from doing the things that you don't like. If you want to spend less time on the internet, get a plan that allows slower or less traffic, or only allow internet on your phone but not your computer. Basic barriers will keep you from automatically falling on old habits, as they'll ensure that doing the wrong thing would be a conscious effort, rather than an accident.
Find something else to do instead of the thing you're trying to stop. The activities listed in the first section can work, but you can also employ smaller tricks. If you tend to get angry a lot, try singing a song inside your head. This works even better if it's a song that makes you laugh.^{[18]
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Give yourself rewards to further motivate you. Keep these small, just enough to trigger positive feelings. You don't want to be dependent on the rewards, just let them make you feel good about all the work you're putting in.^{[19]
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Be patient! Change takes time. It won't happen overnight and if you expect it to, you'll be very disappointed in yourself. Wait, just keep trying, and you'll get there eventually!^{[20]
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What does it really mean to better yourself?

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Rachel Clissold is a Life Coach and Consultant in Sydney, Australia. With over six years of coaching experience and over 17 years of corporate training, Rachel specializes in helping business leaders move through internal roadblocks, gain more freedom and clarity, and optimize their company’s efficiency and productivity. Rachel uses a wide range of techniques including coaching, intuitive guidance, neuro-linguistic programming, and holistic biohacking to help clients overcome fear, break through limitations, and bring their epic visions to life. Rachel is an acclaimed Reiki Master Practitioner, Qualified practitioner in NLP, EFT, Hypnosis & Past Life Regression. She has created events with up to 500 people around Australia, United Kingdom, Bali, and Costa Rica.

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It totally depends on your understanding of yourself. It could be something as simple as trying to fix a bad habit you have, or it could be something as grand as trying to change your attitude towards life.

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Why would I need to better myself if I'm already happy?

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It's good that you're happy, but it helps to reflect periodically on how you're spending your time. What is it you want to achieve? Who do you want to meet? What do you want to open up to? It just creates this gateway for magic to happen

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How can I help my friend better himself?

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You can't control another person's behavior, but you can try to talk to them about it. Before you do, just check in ask them if it's okay you ask them a few questions or give them suggestions. It's really key to get someone's permission before you start delving into something like that.

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